If you have attempted to quit smoking you
no doubt realize just how easy it was to get started smoking compared to
actually quitting. Maybe the reason you
are trying to quit is to set a good example for your children. This is one reason why many parents find
themselves struggling to quit. They do
not want their children to grow up thinking that it is ok to smoke, and it is
necessary that they quit in order to set a great example. If you find yourself in this position, there
are several things you can do to help make the situation much better.
One such idea that you can use would be to
actually invite your children to watch the struggle. This means asking your child to be your help
and strength when you are tempted to smoke.
Simply talking to them about your struggles to quit can be a great way
to show how difficult it really is, while at the same time getting your issues
out in the open. Many times talking
about problems can make them seem much smaller.
This is a great way to help fight the urges of cigarettes as well, after
all many parents who have open and honest relationships with their children are
able to talk about a lot of issues. Use
this opportunity to talk about things that are important, and encourage the
extra support that you receive at the same time.
If you are focusing more on your child when
you have an urge to smoke, and less on where exactly your pack of cigarettes is
located it will be easier to reduce urges.
You should encourage your child to help you find out remedies to your
urges. For example, going with you to
the store to pick out suitable candy to chew on when you get an urge, or even
going with you to the store to purchase the stop smoking aid of your choice.
Allowing them to be a part of your
decisions can help them to see the exact struggles that you are going
through. If you merely hide your
problems behind a closed door, your children may grow up thinking that it is
actually easy to smoke. This could even
lead them to being tempted to smoke.
However, just because you are trying to have an open relationship with
your child does not mean that you should actually smoke around them. The harm that second hand smoke can cause
should be enough to keep you from lighting up around you; however, you could
ask your child to help you maintain a smoking log.
Of course, each family has different ideas
about what is acceptable to talk about, and even comfort levels. If you feel that you are pushing the borders
of what you are comfortable with you can always adjust this. However, using your children to help
encourage you to quit is great. After
all, kids are notorious for picking on people and pointing out flaws. If you allow your child to help you with your
smoking urges you may find that you really do not want to smoke anymore at all
if your children are busy picking on you the entire time. No matter what works best for you and your
particular situation you need to grasp at any opportunity to encourage a bond
and crush the urge to smoke. Your child
will be very proud of you after you have quit, and you will certainly have a
much increased self-confidence.